.Category
{T/F Exercise}
.Stage
{Beyond Basics}
.Title
{Putting up a Good Fight}
.Minimum
{3 - 4 Ts and 3 - 4 Fs}
.Ideal
{6 - 8 Ts and 6 - 8 Fs}
.Maximum
{50 people (If larger, see Trainer Tips - Dealing With Large Groups.)}
.TimeMin
{20 minutes}
.TimeMax
{40 minutes}
.Object1
{To review T and F differences and their implications for conflict}
.Object2
{To experience the difficulty that each of us, regardless of judging preference, has in dealing with conflict}
.Object3
{To use the differences between T and F as building blocks to conflict resolution}
.Material1
{Flipchart paper (minimum 8 sheets) for each group}
.Material2
{Markers}
.Material3
{Masking tape }
.Material4
{Handout entitled:  "The Five Steps to Resolving Conflicts"}
.Material5
{T/F Highlights or Good T/F Words handouts (Optional)}
.Instruct1
{Separate the large group into one group of Ts and one group of Fs.  Subdivide the Feeling deciders into four equal groups and the Thinking deciders into four equal groups.  Each should have access to flipchart paper.}
.Instruct2
{You will give separate assignments to each of the four pairs of T/F groups.}
.Instruct2a
{#1 pair of T and F groups - Instructions:}
.Box1
{"Please respond on flipchart paper to the following as a group:  'Things that I/we wish others knew about me/us when there is a conflict.'  You have 10 minutes."}
.Instruct2b
{#2 pair of T and F groups - Instructions:}
.Box2
{"Please respond on flipchart paper  to the following as a group:  'What are your worst fears about conflict?'  You have 10 minutes."}
.Instruct2c
{#3 pair of T and F groups - Instructions:}
.Box3
{"Define conflict.  Please write a definition, not just a list of words, on flipchart paper  You have 10 minutes."}
.Instruct2d
{#4 pair of T and F groups - Instructions:}
.Box4
{"Please respond on flipchart paper to the following with the first words that cross your mind:  'When there is a conflict I/we...'  You have 10 minutes."}
.Vary1
{<BI>Variation:<N>  If your group size does not allow for subdividing into 4 groups, you can run the exercise with fewer groups by having the groups do more rounds to cover all the questions.}
.Vary2
{<BI>Variation:<N>  If the group does not have at least 2 Ts (happens rarely) or 2 Fs (happens more frequently, especially in organizations), then see Trainer Tips - Dealing with Non-Diverse Groups.}
.Debrief1
{Ask the groups to report out one pair at time and process each pair before going to the next around the following questions:  "What, if any, differences do you observe in these reports?"  "What, if any, are the similarities?"  "Which seems to be more of an issue, our similarities or our differences regarding conflict?"  "Any additional insights?"}
.Debrief2
{Process the next pair with the same questions as above.  Repeat as needed to complete all groups.}
.Debrief3
{Move the group to a general discussion by asking:  "Based on all the information, how can we, as a group, deal with conflict more effectively?  What has to happen?  Who has to do what?  How can we be more open about our differences?  Other comments?" }
.Debrief4
{In summary, give participants the "The Five Steps to Resolving Conflicts" handout.}
.Debrief5
{To complete the group debriefing, give a brief presentation and handout to reinforce the T/F differences and group learnings.  (See Good T/F Words and T/F Highlights handouts.)}
.Debrief6
{<B>Trainer Option:<N>  Ask the group how much, if any, of the material on the flipchart paper would be helpful and relevant to reproduce as a handout.  (Don't ask the group unless you are willing to ensure that the handout is produced.)}
.Caution1
{This exercise can generate some very quick responses from opposing preferences, including sarcasm, humor, projection, anxiety and anger.  Be mindful of this as you are doing the exercise.}
