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{<b>Love Is a Goal Worth Achieving<n>

<IB>General Statement:<N> Responsibility is their driving force, and after God they are most responsible to their mate, children, parents, in-laws, and friends, in that order. Fun -- like work, sex, money, and everything else -- is usually a part of their to-do list. If a successful relationship is not on the list, it simply won't happen. If it is, you can count on them to work hard to achieve that goal.

<IB>First Impressions:<N> Neat, trim, crisp, and always appropriate, whatever the situation. Sharp dressers, who speak with precision. At times they may seem too crisp and even appear somewhat critical.

<IB>Communications:<N> They are good with words and always willing to assume responsibility for making sure communication takes place clearly and effectively. If not careful, ISTJs can transform a conversation into a win-lose proposition, prematurely curtailing further discussion.

<IB>Sex and Intimacy:<N> They are slow to express their feelings and while their intimacies may run very, very deep, little of that depth is likely to be shared. Physical intimacy will be scheduled with attention paid to gender appropriateness: who initiates it, who's aggressive, who assumes the dominant role, and who's on top.

<IB>Finance:<N> These are the financiers of the world -- actuaries, accountants, brokers, bankers, and so on. As the guardians of money they are experts at handling it, and are pleased to do so. Though somewhat conservative, they are most forthright in their financial dealings.

<IB>Conflict:<N> In general they don't believe in the concept. The only conflict is when someone disagrees with their point of view, which they assume to be correct. Therefore, conflict resolution can become an exercise in converting the other person over to their point of view.

<IB>Commitment:<N> Their word is their bond. A commitment made is forever, and they expect the same in return. Having once committed to something, only the fulfillment of this obligation or death is satisfactory.

<IB>Parenting:<N> The ISTJ's motto: A place for everything, and everything in its place; a role for everyone, and everyone in his or her role. Children should behave like children, mommies like mommies, and daddies like daddies. Don't change God's order.

<IB>Contracting:<N> Such an exercise seems unnecessary to ISTJs, because they and everyone else should be bound by their original commitments. However, if any contract is deemed appropriate, then it becomes the law.

<IB>Ending Relationships:<N> The ISTJ is slow to break any commitment, no matter how unpleasant it may be. However, if the ISTJ feels the relationship should be over, then the best thing to do is to accept that reality and get to work doing what must be done.}
