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{<b>Inspiring Idealists<n>

<IB>General Statement:<N> Idealistic and inspirational, INFPs have a great capacity to nurture and encourage their mates. Though easygoing and affirming, they can be direct and even controlling when one of their personal values or ideals is challenged.

<IB>First Impressions:<N> Easygoing, warm, gracious, very much aware of their space and yours. Fun and affirming, though a bit shy and removed. They can be slow to engage others, giving way to the inaccurate but common perception of being "stuck up."

<IB>Communications:<N> Though perhaps reserved in initiating a conversation, they can be deft in expressing themselves. Clear and precise with the written word, they can even be poetic when it comes to communicating about love and other relationship issues.

<IB>Finance:<N> They usually have a low interest in these issues. However, when it confronts them, the INFP can be sharp, clever, and astute money managers. As with many other skills, they can underestimate themselves and their capabilities, yet prove to be very competent.

<IB>Conflict:<N> Almost more than any other type, they shun and abhor conflict, doing anything to avoid it. When finally pushed to the brink, they can be tough, stubborn, persevering, confrontational, and downright unyielding.

<IB>Sex and Intimacy:<N> Like other Introverts they can be slow to express their needs and affection. Nonetheless, personal needs and affection run very deep with this type. As they become freer to express themselves, sex and intimacy can turn into moments of unselfish giving.

<IB>Commitment:<N> It is deep and quite probably forever. They are slow to make commitments -- cautious and questioning before the final signing on the bottom line. Right down to the end they ask, "Is this the right decision?" However, once a decision is made, it is a culmination of hopes, dreams, ideals, and it is good for a lifetime.

<IB>Parenting:<N> This is generally an accepted responsible that is relished. Children are a natural extension of the INFP's ideals, and parenting is the arena in which these ideals are nurtured and allowed to grow.

<IB>Contracting:<N> Because of their intense commitments, contracting can be a facilitative process that enhances the relationship. Though INFPs have a low need to be influential, they have a high need to be an integral part of those close to them. Whatever will help the relationship is worth doing.

<IB>Ending Relationships:<N> Their idealism makes it difficult for them to accept a relationship's demise. More than other types INFPs suffer great self-doubt, self-punishment, and other such self-rejecting feelings. Usually these are totally out of proportion to what has caused the relationship to end.}
