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{<b><p18> INFJ <p12><n>}
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{<b>Heart, Mind, and Spirit<n>

<IB>General Statement:<N> Driven by a rich imagination and a deep concern for others, they are a source of unending inspiration and enjoyment to the people in their lives. Their inner life is their driving power, and a possible weakness is their slowness to share some of their inner richness. However, this is overcome by the sensitivity and concern shown toward their mate and children.

<IB>First Impressions:<N> Tenderhearted and caring. Others come away mindful of their gentleness. They exhibit a marked concern for others and a desire to be pleasant and helpful in any situation. Low-key as they are, others find it pleasant to be in the INFJ's domain, and readily return for more.

<IB>Communications:<N> The real finesse of their communication is through the written word. They are clear, eloquent, and magnificent in their ability to use the perfect word for any situation. However, this is dependent on their having ample introverted time. Without it they can be somewhat slow to affirm to others or express themselves effectively.

<IB>Finance:<N> Details, practicality, and precision are the banes of their existence. It is difficult for them to find anything inspirational about something so mundane as money. As a result they tend to be poor money-handlers. Often aware of this weakness, they can be conservative and cautious with their money.

<IB>Conflict:<N> The word, and all it stands for, is abhorrent to INFJs. Death itself is probably faced more readily than anything that even resembles conflict. It is contrary to their nature and they believe that nothing good can come from it. When they must face conflict situations, they do so reluctantly, and with a heavy heart.

<IB>Sex and Intimacy:<N> This is the confluence of heart, mind, and spirit. It is a giving of self in the meeting of the mate, so that the two individuals become one entity. Intimacy, for INFJs, represents the loss of self in favor of their lover's needs. Their inner inspiration reaches its fullest potential in the overt acting out of love, caring, and giving in such a physical and tangible way.

<IB>Commitment:<N> It is deep, abiding, permanent, and ultimately the fulfillment of all life's goals and purposes. They are entered into with some caution and reserve, but once done, there's no turning back. Because INFJs are so determined about keeping commitments, they can be slow to forgive a lover who is less than 110 percent committed. They place high demands on themselves and their mates to give it all they've got.

<IB>Parenting:<N> Children are the realization of much of the INFJ's purpose in life. After mate and God comes parenting, as the ultimate value of a relationship. For them it is an expression of the deepest meaning of a person's movement through life. The same inspiration that guides them is passed on to their children. As parents INFJs are remembered by their children as patient, goodwilled, tender, and inspirational.

<IB>Contracting:<N> They are heavily committed to interpersonal growth and development, so contracting is the thing that keeps their relationship vital. INFJs translate their various thoughts and visions into goals that, when achieved, are measurable accomplishments that reflect the energy invested in the relationship.

<IB>Ending Relationships:<N> Like other Feelers, INFJs tend to hang on after a relationship is over, wondering what might have made things work better. Guilt can also keep them "holding on," when "letting go" would be in everyone's best interest. Once the feelings of failing and guilt are resolved, INFJs deem a relationship over, and like many Judgers, put it behind them and move on to other relationships.}
