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{<b>Relationships Should Never Be Boring<n>

<IB>General Statement:<N> Exciting, thrilling, and risk-taking. They live in the present, driven by the philosophy that "what is" is always better than "what could be." It's a waste of time to cry over spilled milk, because the milk can't be recovered and the crying can get in the way of managing oneself. They try to make the most of every moment in a relationship, with the assumption that everything will fall into place. If it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.

<IB>First Impressions:<N> Savvy, witty, clever, and easy to be around. They are quick at repartee, they can be charming and delightful in an initial encounter. Very realistic and somewhat hard charging, they reflect the philosophy that "Doing something is better than doing nothing."

<IB>Communications:<N> They can be precise with words, very literal, usually speaking in present tense. When something is said, they are likely to respond to it because ignoring it will mean they have passed up a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. They have little interest in philosophizing or rehashing what was just said, putting off the discussion for later. For them, if it doesn't have immediate meaning and impact, it's probably not worth pursuing.

<IB>Finance:<N> They frequently can be clever in their handling of money, and are often viewed by others as high rollers and risk takers. Their financial bravado can give them an edge in the financial world. Though sharp with figures, they can be a bit stressful to their mates, who often long for more financial stability.

<IB>Conflict:<N> Much like the common cold, conflict is a fact of life that can't be cured. Resolving conflicts requires about the same amount of time and energy as it takes to ignore them, and the ESTP is equally capable doing either. When they do confront conflict, they tend to see it as a stepping-stone in the process of moving through life.

<IB>Sex and Intimacy:<N> This is a very sensual event for ESTPs -- touching, seeing, smelling, tasting, and hearing. It is best when all the senses are stimulated and there is ample time for expression, affirmation, and conversation about all that is happening. The act is most satisfying when the ESTP can make the most of the moment.

<IB>Commitment:<N> It is only as good as the present moment. They are not prone to make promises they cannot keep. For the ESTP the best-kept promises are simple, tangible, and specific. They work hard daily at the immediate parts of the relationship. Promises are not forever, says the ESTP. They are for the moment, and you discuss and renew them each day.

<IB>Parenting:<N> Every day, parenting begins anew. Each moment of parenting is an experience in which the ESTP teaches and is taught -- they grow with their kids, and help them grow. As with the rest of life, parenthood is an adventure which the ESTP enters -- and often leaves -- with more questions than answers.

<IB>Contracting:<N> The ESTP can see contracting as an unnecessary layer that is little more than good intentions. It's probably not even necessary, because if you're working daily at your relationship, the contracts will take care of themselves.

<IB>Ending Relationships:<N> A relationship can be over anytime either party fails to make the most of each moment. Driven by an awareness of not being able to undo what's happened -- the past -- they are more likely than any other type to sever strings to a relationship that has lost its meaning.}
